Well, considering the number of posts involving girls here, I would like to add one of my own.

I am haunted by the fact even today that there was this girl that I liked 3 years ago. I eventually got her ICQ contact, and talked to her. Being the immature and young person I was back then. I repeatdly messaged her one too many times, which left her the impression I was there to harass or stalk her, when I was only trying to know her better. She developed a misunderstanding of me in real life through ICQ.

I've changed now, very much. I'm much more mature and intelligent now. I just want her to make her know that. And to know I am not how I was as potrayed on ICQ 3 years ago. I don't expect her to like me or anything. I have a very good girlfriend already and I love her very much. I just want this to get out of my mind so that it doesn't haunt me anymore. Being the first girl I liked, this has really a lasting and should I say, devastating impact on me.

I just want to relinquish this problem and move on.

Any advice on how I talk to this girl? It's been 3 years already, and I'm confused on how I should approach this.

 

Agreed, what's she going to think if you 'bugged' her on ICQ, and now three years later you're still worrying about it? I'm not really trying to be mean, not in the least. It's just I don't think she could take that good at all. Just let it go, you seem to be happy now, why bother putting yourself through that? But hey, I'm no relationship expert... My relationships haven't been so great lately... as cliched as it is, nice guys finish last.

 

Yep. Take your newfound experience and maturity into your next relationship. It won't do you any good with her, but the next girl will appreciate it.

They say that good judgement comes from experience, but a lot of that comes from bad judgement.

 

Hi. I am not much of an expert, but my girlfriend is getting her Psychology Bachelors Degree this Spring, and here is what she has to say:
first of all, you said yourself you are more mature.. It is possible the girl developed a misunderstanding because maybe you didnt explain why you were ICQ her so often. MEaning...did u tell her shes interesting and u wanted to get to know her better and that ther was no pressure involved? As for now, we all learn from our mistakes of the past it is how we mature in life. BEsides if you are in a happy relationship now..focus on that and the past shouldnt get in the way. Jus remember you hav matured ...so dont dwell on the past focus on the hapier future!



-Maria

 

Thanks for all your advice guys. I really appreciate it. Surprised everyone told me the same things.

 

just let it go.